Questions for couples: 60 to ask each other
Light ones, deep ones, and the ones you never thought to ask. Pick a theme, or let chance choose, and take turns answering.
One of you reads a question, and both of you answer, the one who read it first. There are no wrong answers and no scores: the point is to hear something new. Ten questions make a good evening; one a day keeps the habit.
Let chance pick
60 questions, six themesPress the button for a first question.
Why these questions work
A good question for a couple cannot be answered with yes or no, and it asks for a memory or a reason rather than an opinion. We sorted these sixty from light to deep: the first themes suit a long evening together, the deep ones a quiet night, and the funny ones come back whenever the conversation needs air.
The questions
To know each other better
- What small thing instantly makes your day better?
- Which song would describe this year of your life?
- What did you want to be when you were ten?
- What are you secretly proud of that nobody ever compliments you on?
- Where in the world would you move tomorrow if money did not matter?
- What is the best advice anyone has ever given you?
- Which of your habits are you trying to get rid of?
- Which three words would your best friend use to describe you?
- What do you need most after a hard day: talking, silence or a distraction?
- What have you changed your mind about in the last few years?
Childhood and roots
- What is your happiest memory from before you were twelve?
- Which family tradition would you like us to keep?
- Which adult did you admire most as a child, and why?
- What were you told off for most often as a child?
- Which smell takes you straight back to your childhood?
- What did your parents get right that you would like to repeat?
- What would you like to do differently from them?
- Which film or book marked you as a teenager?
- What was your bedroom like when you were fifteen?
- What were you afraid of as a child that makes you smile now?
About the two of us
- What did you think of me the first time we met?
- When did you know this was more than a crush?
- Which of our days together would you live again exactly as it was?
- What do I do that makes you feel loved, even when I do not notice it?
- What small thing could I do more often?
- Which of our habits do you hope we never lose?
- What are we best at as a team?
- What have you never dared to ask me?
- How do you like us to make up after an argument?
- What would you like people to say about us in twenty years?
Dreams and the future
- Where do you see us living in five years?
- What would you like us to try before the end of the year?
- Which trip should we absolutely take together?
- What does a perfect ordinary Sunday look like for you in ten years?
- What would you do with a whole year off?
- Which skill would you love us to learn together?
- What does success mean to you, beyond work?
- Which dream have you set aside that you would like to pick up again?
- How do you picture us at seventy?
- What would you like us to build together that has nothing to do with money?
Deep questions
- When did you last cry, and what about?
- Which fear do you rarely talk about?
- What do you find hardest to forgive, in others and in yourself?
- Which moment of your life would you change if you could?
- What makes you feel truly understood?
- Is there something you wish you had said to someone while there was still time?
- What does loyalty mean to you?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What would you want me to do if you were going through a dark time?
- What are you still learning to accept about yourself?
Just for fun
- If we swapped lives for a day, what would you do first as me?
- Which fictional couple are we most like?
- What would the film about our relationship be called?
- Which of my habits would you imitate to make me laugh?
- If we opened a little shop together, what would it sell?
- What is your most useless talent?
- Which animal would you be, and which one would I be?
- What would your dream three-course meal be, with no rules at all?
- Which song would we sing at karaoke, and who would take the high notes?
- If we won a prize for something only the two of us do, what would it be?
Questions people ask
How do you play questions for couples?
Take turns: one of you reads a question and answers first, then the other answers. There is nothing to win. The only rule worth keeping is to listen to the whole answer before replying, then to ask one question back — that is where the conversation really starts.
What are good deep questions to ask your partner?
Questions that ask for a memory, a fear or a hope rather than a yes or a no: when did you last cry, what do you find hardest to forgive, when do you feel most like yourself. Keep them for a calm evening, one or two at a time, and never use them as a test.
How many questions should we ask in one evening?
About ten is plenty, mixing the themes: two light ones to start, a few about the two of you, one or two deep ones, and a funny one to finish. Going through all sixty at once turns a conversation into a questionnaire.
Is there an app with a question for couples every day?
Pomia has one: each day one of you asks a question and the other guesses the answer, and a flame counts the days you both kept it up. On your own, it becomes a would-you-rather. Pomia is an iPhone app, on the App Store since 30 September 2026.
Pomia is now on the App Store.
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